Your situation
You said: everyone nods, and then nothing changes.
You said: people push back, even those who were keen at first.
You said: it works for a few weeks, and then slides back.
You said: you have tried all sorts, and it keeps getting stuck.
And it is mostly stuck on the floor. Then look at what makes the old behaviour easy there.
And it is mostly stuck with the managers in between. Their team watches what they do.
And it is mostly stuck at the top. What they do on Monday weighs more than what they said at the kick-off.
You do not have a buy-in problem. You have a Monday problem.
Saying yes costs nothing. On Monday the new behaviour does cost something: a different order of work, a different system, a colleague who gives you a funny look. The old behaviour is familiar, socially safe and takes no energy.
Tomorrow, pick one moment when the new behaviour has to happen. Make that moment easier than the old one. You do not need to persuade anyone; you design the situation. That is what you learn in two days.
Resistance is not unwillingness. It is information.
Whoever pushes back is telling you what makes the old behaviour safe: status, a familiar way of working, fear of losing face. Persuading harder makes exactly that fear bigger.
Tomorrow, ask the three loudest opponents what they lose if the change succeeds. Listen without defending. What you hear is what your design has to absorb.
The new behaviour was not anchored anywhere. The old environment was.
It worked while everyone was paying attention. When that attention faded, the environment sprang back: the same agenda, the same systems, the same questions in the team meeting. Whoever sets the default sets what almost everyone does.
Tomorrow, find where the new behaviour should have sat in the routine: a fixed agenda item, a default setting, a weekly question from the manager. That is where you anchor it. And that is where you test it small, before the whole organisation joins in.
You have been pushing on motivation. The behaviour sits in the situation.
Explaining, pressure, another session: everything you tried spoke to the conscious part of people. The behaviour you want to change runs on autopilot. It hangs on what is easy, what others do and what the default is. As long as that situation stays the same, it wins every time.
Tomorrow, plan no new action. First map what holds the old behaviour in place. Only then do you design.
Behavioural Design Fundamentals · 2 days · AmsterdamBehavioural Design Fundamentals · online · 33 lessons
After two days you see what holds your change back. And you know how to design the situation so people move along by themselves.After the 33 lessons you see what holds your change back. And you know how to design the situation so people move along by themselves.
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