Your situation
You said: everyone defends their own interest, and it goes nowhere.
You said: there is agreement at the table, and then everyone does their own thing.
You said: one party blocks everything.
You said: you have tried all sorts, and nothing has changed.
And the hardest are the directors. They weigh your plan against their own risk.
And the hardest are other departments. They have their own targets to answer for.
And the hardest are outside parties. They have people of their own to explain it to.
Under every position sits an interest.
At the table you hear positions: what a party wants. The interest is why they want it: what they have to protect or achieve. As long as you talk about positions, everyone defends their own.
Tomorrow, have one conversation outside the meeting. Ask what goes wrong for that party if your plan goes ahead. That is where the interest sits.
Agreement at the table is not yet a choice back home.
Saying yes at the table is easy. Back in their own organisation, someone has to defend that agreement to people who were not there. If that is hard, nothing happens.
Tomorrow, ask one stakeholder what they need in order to explain it internally. Make it for them: one sentence, and one answer to the objection they expect.
Whoever blocks everything is protecting something.
A party that keeps blocking loses something if your plan goes ahead: a say, budget or face. As long as that loss is on the table, no argument changes their position.
Tomorrow, find out what this party loses. Then see what you can adjust to make that loss smaller, without letting go of your goal.
You kept pushing harder. What holds people back is still there.
Explanation, arguments and pressure all work on the same side: they push. The doubts and comforts that keep people with the old way stay where they are. As long as they do, pushing harder mostly produces more counter-pressure.
Tomorrow, plan no new action. First map what is holding people back. Then you know what to remove.
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